It is a much proffered notion that financial issues and reduced cash flow are the biggest contributors towards separation and divorce. While it is true that these factors create pressure and tension within a relationship, statistics actually suggest that divorce rates are lowered during times of economic and financial crisis.
Though this is in part due to the fact that the presence of debt makes separation a far more complex and costly process, it is also because times of difficulty and financial hardship often draw couples closer together. Even where money and finance is a contributory factor to the decline of a relationship, it is generally cited as a secondary cause or a potential catalyst to other more pertinent divorce factors. The real unknown factor is exactly how much financial pressure and uncertainly can feature in other problems that generally render relationships moribund.
Infidelity and Lies between Couples
Unsurprisingly, infidelity plays as the most significant contributory factor to separation and divorce. Approximately 51 percent of divorces recorded in 2009 cited infidelity on behalf of one or both spouses as the cause, with cases where both couples have admitted some variation of cheating reaching 41 percent. The dual distress of physical acts of betrayal and ill considered lies make infidelity the devastating issue that it remains, distorting the perception between the couple and diminishing the trust that binds a relationship close.
Of the 41 percent of couples where both parties committed acts of infidelity, there are a strong number of cases where one act was undertaken simply in response to another. This childish element of retribution supports the notion that many relationships enter a downward spiral after an initial act of betrayal, irrespective of the verbal forgiveness proffered by the offended partner. So although the relationship may official terminate further down the line due a supposed secondary cause, the fact remains that the act of fidelity was the underlying issue.
Lies and untruths, whether they are centred on infidelity or other acts, prove over time to completely erode the element of trust in a marriage or relationship. A startling statistic revealed that up to 74 percent of males would commit adultery if they could keep it hidden from their spouse, which in itself highlights a devious and undesirable nature that is exists in human psychology. It can be assumed that a large proportion of that 74 percent that would consider themselves to be intelligent or possess a partially arrogant mentality would be capable of lying to and misleading their partner on any issue.
Unreasonable Behaviour and Domestic Violence
The term unreasonable behaviour has long been synonymous with divorce, and covers a broad and weaving scope of detrimental human behaviour. From spouses with gambling addictions that damage a families welfare to those who perpetrate domestic violence, this legal definition has long been cited to cover many eventualities. The chief cause of these behavioural patterns is some form of mental or physical addiction, although internal and financial pressures are often put forward as alternative cases.
The most pertinent addictions in terms of divorce are alcohol and drugs, be they illegal or prescription concoctions. While they are well known to modify and alter human behaviour through well documented stages, these addictions themselves can be prompted by many different problems. A high proportion of alcoholics develop their condition with the onset of redundancy, job loss and the ensuing financial pressures, creating a domino effect of destructive behaviour both towards the self and a spouse. Separation and ultimately divorce are the final stages of this inevitable cycle.
Unlike infidelity, which is generally the result of personal or communication issues, violence and unreasonable behaviour in a relationship can often be traced back to a financial root cause. These initial causes, if not dealt with at source through the established techniques of communication and action, can bloom into destructive addictions and mentally or physically harmful behaviour towards a supposed loved one.
The Financial Factor
It appears that, quite aside from the disruptive entity that is infidelity, many of the factors cited in separation and divorce issues are influenced to some degree by financial pressure. It is also true to note that this pressure often acts as a catalyst for problems such as domestic violence and addictive behaviour trends. However, the same could be said of many alternative elements that are involved in making or breaking a relationship, such as communication, a sharing of goals and physical compatibility. With this in mind, it would be fair to presume that the concept of financial implications being chiefly responsible for couple separation and divorce is more the consequence of hype and circumstance rather than actual fact.